When was the last time you felt like you had even 5 mins spare?
I know for me, working a full-time job, looking after a husband & a 15-month-old baby and running an online business is a 24/7 job.
On the off chance I have even 5 mins spare, I’ll find something else I could do like washing or cleaning.
We often here the overwhelming benefits of meditation in the morning to help you focus and prepare for the day…If you’re me that extra 10 mins sleep sounds a lot more appealing.
However, if you’ve been in a high state of stress for a decades, there is no way you can turn your mind into a calming oasis of peace within 10 minutes.
Getting to that level takes years of disciplined dedication.
But, what if I told you that there are many ways to meditate. It’s not all about quieting the mind and shutting out the world. Many people respond far better to meditation with words or music or even a long walk in nature.
Here are few different ways to meditate. Try them all and pick the one that fits you best.
Playing some peaceful music is a wonderful way to start your journey of meditation. Try to stay away from songs. If you’re someone who loves lyrics, your mind will automatically hook on to the words and you’ll be using your conscious mind instead of resting it.
Classical music is a good option. Choose familiar, uplifting pieces like Pachelbel’s Canon in D or the Trumpet Voluntary by Jeremiah Clarke.
There are also many apps and videos on YouTube you can listen to in the car on the way to work or before going to bed.
Let the music wash over you, and as images come into your mind, let them in and allow them out. It doesn’t matter how many thoughts come. Don’t fight them. Meditation is passive but it’s not meek. So, if negative thoughts come creeping, let them pass right through. Just sit back and listen to the music.
Though you don’t want lyrics stuck in your head, it doesn’t mean that you can’t use words at all. You may love a fragment of a poem, or a line from a favourite book or even the Serenity Prayer used in 12-step programs. If these give you comfort and security, just sit in a quiet space and repeat the words you love over and over to yourself.
Start with just 30 seconds. Do that for 3 days and add another 10. Keep going till you’re happy to meditate for 15-20 minutes. At this point, you may want to check in and see if you’d like to try (or add) another form of meditation to your schedule.
We tend to lose ourselves in this fast-paced, material, ambitious world. While there is nothing wrong with enjoying a comfortable life and having ambitions, you should treat it as a red flag if you notice that chasing these things have overtaken your time, sullied your pleasure in life and turned you into a different, unhappy person.
One of the goals of meditation is to be able to return to the essence of your nature, the best of you, which can only be brought out if you are not caught up in a vicious cycle of stress, exhaustion and hopelessness.
This has gained huge popularity in the last 7 years or so. There are several good apps for this like Headspace, Meditation Easy and Inscape. These are obviously extremely convenient as they are portable and have reminders built in.
You can also play with the settings so that you start with a very short period of meditation and work your way up when you’re more able.
Some apps offer meditation for different types of stress. There are many more in the App Store and Google Play, so window shop as much as you want. You should also download the free ones that sound good to you so that you can take them for a test drive.
Of course, there are also certified meditation practitioners who can act as guides. This may cost more, but if you are in a highly wound-up, constant state of stress, you may want to book a few sessions with someone to help you start. Look around your area and ask for recommendations.
It would be a good idea to meet the person before you undertake something as intimate as meditation with them. When you call to arrange that, explain your needs and assess what they offer.
Though some movements have strict definitions of what meditation is, the world is increasingly cognisant of individual needs and comfort levels. Meditation for stress management shouldn’t have hard rules because that will only pile on the pressure.
Do only what you can. Increase the duration of your meditation sessions only when you are comfortable. Accept that meditating will be harder on some days than on others. What you want to achieve is the ability to sit back quietly, with peace of mind and a light heart. You deserve that.